Please Be Nice To Your Vet

Veterinarians love their jobs, but it’s not all puppy kisses and kitten purrs. We asked Wildest expert Dr. Zay how pet parents can forge a healthy, honest, and sustainable relationship with their vet.

by Chris Norris | expert review by Dr. Zay Satchu, DVM
August 27, 2021
A smiling veterinarian holding a cat
Courtesy of Bond Vet

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Like ER doctors or family lawyers, veterinarians see most clients on something other than their best day. Anxiety makes some of them impatient, treatment fees make others surly. The whole experience of a vet visit is often new and stressful for both the human and the animal — and this patient can’t even tell the doctor how they feel!

Years of training and experience go into a vet’s diagnosis and treatment plan, but they can’t force humans to follow their recommendations. And unlike almost all other health professionals, vets are called upon to euthanize their patients. For these and other reasons, today’s vets are at an especially high-risk for burnout, compassion fatigue (the combination of emotional, physical, psychological, and spiritual exhaustion), or worse — with female vets in particular 3.5 times likelier to die by suicide than members of the general population. So, in a year that first-time pet adoptions have exploded nationwide, we owe it to ourselves and our animals to know how to support the professionals who play such a crucial role in our lives. 

Our resident expert, Dr. Zay Satchu, DVM, and founder of cutting-edge NYC vet clinic and vet-support project Bond Vet, says “there’s no silver bullet” for addressing the layered emotional challenges in the field. “Most people understand the ups and downs vets face day-to-day. People might not realize how overworked and underpaid doctors can be due to a lack of operational efficiency in a typical veterinary environment.” (Since vets tend not to have HR or professional growth support.) “All of this, coupled with attempting to meet client demands while balancing an animal’s life with the cost of care that their human can provide, creates a very difficult environment to be successful in — emotionally and financially.” 

That said, Dr. Zay is quick to add: “Vets really love their work, providing stellar care and continuing to grow both personally and professionally,” even in the midst of a pandemic. “Since animal hospitals are considered essential businesses, our teams went into work every day and dealt with the looming concerns of COVID, amidst being worried about pet health.” Among the COVID-driven adjustments was curbside check-in. “Though this new flow and process did allow vets to continue caring for pets who needed it,” Dr. Zay says, “it also brought on an array of operational issues that make some things a little trickier.” Then there’s the sudden explosion of first-time pet parents. Ahead, Dr. Zay points to four basic ways we can forge a great relationship with our vet and set our pets up for success.

1. Plan Ahead

“I really urge pet parents to invest in pet insurance early on in their pet’s life — it is the absolute best approach to balance the inevitable need for medical care your pet will experience. Too often we see situations arise — unfortunately too late most of the time — in which pets’ lives are at stake due to their human’s inability to afford the care their pets need. Having an insurance plan that, at minimum, covers accidents, emergencies, and illnesses makes decisions on care much less stressful. We see better patient outcomes when pet parents don’t have to worry about the cost of an extra diagnostic test or life-saving procedure. It can also be helpful with bigger procedures like dental cleanings that can be costly later in a pet’s life. There are many plans out there. I personally use Trupanion pet insurance — their plans are curated for pet parents who want to have support in case of illness or emergency.”

2. Trust Us

“The veterinary team — though a group of individuals who entered the space initially because they love animals — are educated, licensed medical professionals. Their experience and knowledge shouldn’t be discredited by what you’ve heard on an online forum or through a friend or employee at a local pet shop. As medical professionals, we value the relationships you have with those involved in your pet’s ecosystem, but trust us when we recommend certain things, be it food, medication, or general care. We’re here to support the human-animal bond. Our job is to advocate for your pet and educate you as thoroughly as possible.”  

3. Be Honest

“Be open and honest with us, every step of the way. There is no judgement within the four walls of an exam room or on a virtual visit or phone call. Our job is to do right by you and your pet, and though we’ll always recommend the best approach, we understand that it may not work for everyone. Tell us about your limitations and share your stories, and we’ll respect your decisions and limitations. We ultimately want what’s best for your pet — allow us to help within our capacities.”

4. Ask Questions

Welcoming a pet into the family is one of the most exciting times in a pet parent’s journey, but it can also be one of the most stressful. For your first vet visit, come prepared with questions. And, don’t worry, if you forget to ask something during the visit, we’re here for you by phone. Additionally, if your pet is healthy, I typically recommend owners spend several days at minimum with their new pet before visiting the vet. At Bond Vet, we offer free puppy/kitten concierge consultations so pet parents can get all of their questions answered on topics ranging from behavior to vaccines and general support. This gives them a chance to get to know their new family member and figure out what questions they may have.”

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Chris Norris

Chris Norris is a writer, reporter, author, and longtime companion to West Highland terrier Gus, recently departed but intensely loved. Chris Norris is has written for The New Yorker, New York Magazine, The New York Times MagazineRolling Stone, GQ, Details, and NPR’s “All Things Considered.” He lives in New York City with his wife and 8-year-old son.