Should You Put Your Pet in Your Dating Profile?

Several years ago, I went on a first date and found out, maybe 20 minutes into the date, they had just gotten a puppy. There was no mention of this little baby brindle boy on their profile, no image of his little face in any of their pictures. I remember thinking, What. A. Flex. Why would you hide this extremely attractive fact from the dating public? Who wouldn’t be more interested in going on a date with someone, if there’s a chance of meeting a puppy? 

At least, this was the finding of a February study conducted by the British organization Guide Dogs. The survey found that two-thirds of the 1,000 participants responded that they were more likely to match with someone if they include a dog in their profile picture. Their logic was less about getting to spend time with a dog (so they say!) and more about the characteristics they see inherent to dog-guardianship. People who had dogs — the participants reported — seemed to be more active, social, responsible, and empathetic. And, the survey subjects guessed, someone who has a dog is more likely to want to settle down. 

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“It’s also so easy to chat to people on the apps about their pets, when you need an opening line!” says my friend Ari, who lives in Chicago and is very happy in their dating life. “It’s a way of asking them about themselves, but it’s a step removed,” they say. “And you can see how they express affection and love. That makes me asking about their pets sound more calculated — the baseline is that I am always genuinely interested in hearing about dogs!” One of the last people Ari was chatting to, they say, was a dog walker, which was only disappointing because Ari thought from the photos they were meeting someone with at least four beautiful pups. But hey, dating a dog walker isn’t a bad way to meet a ton of dogs.

If you see a pet in a pic, that says something good.

My friend Mara dated her way into a pretty hillside house in Los Feliz occupied by not one, but two, calico cats, who were photographed in her current boyfriend’s profile. “You know, I think when I was looking at dating profiles and there wasn’t anything wrong with them overtly, but something didn’t feel right, it was, like, the absence of a pet. Maybe people look their kindest and most giving when they’re with an animal.” 

Mara also remembers that her profile photo catered to a deception: a photograph of her with her parents’ cat. “Oh, I realize now I was a catfish,” Mara says, “Oh, well, I got what I wanted!” This reminds me of a roommate I had who volunteered with kittens, and after her first night instantly updated her dating profile with a photo of her surrounded by the kittens. 

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“Well, of course, I have to foreground Pepita,” says another former roommate, Katy, about her dog, a mix of unknown lineage who looks like a scruffy absent-minded professor. “Getting to know Pepita would be the best part of getting to know me!” But Katy finds herself extremely ambivalent about dogs in other’s photos — because it means that early dating is a difficult shuffle between the dogs’ feeding and walking schedules, and sleepovers always leave one dog lonely. But then, knowing that the person also loves dogs is a quality that outweighs the logistics. 

When their pet becomes your bestie.

In the years I dated the most voraciously, I was very busy flinging myself from city to city and maintaining a deliciously unpredictable schedule. My life, as I saw it, would be ill-suited for a dog. I’d created a difficult situation for myself, because all I’ve always wanted was a dog. So, I was particularly attuned to pets in dating profiles, as I saw this as my sneaky loophole to spending time with an animal. I could date my way to it.

My most wild year — perhaps the year of my life least suited to having a dog — was the year I matched with someone who had just adopted a little brindle mix puppy, Finn. I insisted that I bike home with my date to meet the puppy and take him on his evening walk. Due to circumstances of love, Finn is now my very best friend and daily companion. And if he had been my puppy at the time of meeting my partner, I know he would have been in every single one of my pictures.

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Now, a few pet-centric date ideas, after you’ve matched:

1. Go on a hike with your dogs.

2. Volunteer to walk a dog together as a shelter.

3. Make a date at a cat cafe. Leave the dogs at home.

4. Keep an eye out for dog meet-ups. I’ve only ever accidentally run into my local Pug meet-up day, but it was the best. There are also dog costume contests that seem particularly fun. 

5. Niche pet activity, but a personal delight: go to a museum and find all the dogs and cats in the art.